Dreamboards created with my friend
What is the biggest stumbling block to our success? It can seem really easy to blame all levels of external circumstances for our own unwillingness to push ourselves, but there will ALWAYS be outside circumstances, shifting in ways we couldn't imagine. So, really, that is an excuse.
What is the real challenge?
How do we strike a balance between contentment and complacency?
To be content, we must accept the circumstances of our life and come to peace with the decisions which brought us to this time and place. We must accept the people in our life as they are, and we must accept the decisions which brought them to this time and place. Even better, let's cultivate some gratitude for all those bumps, scrapes and mistakes! They fashioned us, honed us or set us free. Maybe all three! Being content means releasing doubt and regret, starting from now, this moment, without judgement and without fear. When we are reacting to circumstances or acting out to solve our past "failures," we sometimes find ourselves in the exact same story, wondering how we found ourselves repeating the same thing over again!
Complacency is the poison which will tell you, "this is fate," "I always do this," "I shouldn't be surprised I ended up in the same relationship, I'm obviously flawed," then you just go ahead and believe that nothing will change. You could be looking at the most beautiful sunset you've ever seen, but your mind's eye will tell you, "same shit, different day." You will only see one more day gone by, and fail to recognize that this magical lightshow will never exist again in the exact same way.
I make coffee to pay my bills. I have a college degree but I find so much joy in just this simple and finite job, which allows me to meet interesting people and never follows me home to keep me up at night. Sometimes when I'm asking someone about their day and then they ask me about mine, they will project things like, "same shit, different day," or "another day in paradise," or they will sympathize with the fact that I am "stuck at work," when in reality, I really enjoy my job. Of course I'd love to spend my whole day reading, or just doing reiki treatments or practicing yoga or whatever I want, but I laugh to myself and I sympathize with these people.
Once we start to see the circumstances of life as a closed loop, we cease to see the magic inherent in life. That one question could lead to something completely new. The reality of life is that it is always new. It is complacency with the status quo which makes us fail to see our dreams manifesting before our very eyes. It is true that life is cyclical, the bonus being that we get to come around again, and usually a "missed opportunity" will resurface down the road in a new form, hopefully when we are finally open to its exploration. For what is life but a grand adventure?
How are you enjoying your adventure today? Open your child-like eyes, full of hope and wonder, and see something new today!